VIOLENCE IS NOT ONLY WRONG, IT’S DISEASED—it’s always painful and too often fatal—as with Martin Luther King, no less. When emotions run high, doctors have difficulty making progress—calm, dispassionate review of the obvious evidence is vital, if you aim for less pain and fewer deaths. This paper is based on the self-evident precept that violated children unmistakeably predate violent adults. The remedy, highlighted here, is unusual in all psychiatry, in that it is backed by solid, irrefutable, objective, scientific evidence—from brainscans, (...) no less—at least it is, for those willing to look. The paper has 6 parts: 1. Introduction; 2. Un-memorising Terror; 3. Nutritious Emotions; 4. Tyrannical Revenge; 5. The Way to Cure Nucleargeddon Is Paved With Good Intentions; 6. Conclusion. Parenting is a troubled skill, largely because mis-parenting perpetuates itself. As the poet Philip Larkin says of parents—“they fill you with the faults they had, and add some extra just for you”. Larkin moderates his criticism with “they may not mean to, but they do”. Sadly his “solution”—“don’t have any kids yourself” can extinguish the human race as reliably as ever revengeful Emotional Dwarfism will. (shrink)